“If my daughter wants to go for a sex date, I would gladly encourage her to buy a female condom, and if need be, I would gladly take her for an injection or coil implant for safety.” Those were thoughts from a lady on the radio, on the contraceptives and sex menace in our country today. A young girl in Church told me that of all the friends she has in college, 80% of them have either had the injection or the coil implant for their ‘safety’ during their sexual escapades. In the wake of such realities, the rate of fatherless babies and teenage mothers is on the rise. In one of the counties, a member of parliament was vehemently opposed when she commented that all the underage/teenage pregnancies warranted imprisonment. Maybe that was overboard, alright. But that is a woman who is alarmed at the kind of nation we are brooding. As young people, what should our response be? What are we doing to make sure that we are agents of change in a society that is already contraceptive captive? Have you been caught up in this maze as well? Several things that form the basis for such recklessness:
a. Godlessness at heart.
Why would people become dead in their conscience as to allow their children leeway in engaging in orgies and degrading lifestyles? There is no God in people’s hearts. Isaiah said in chapter 59:12-13, “For our transgressions are multiplied before you, and our sins testify against us; for our transgressions are with us, and we know our iniquities: transgressing, and denying the LORD, and turning back from following our God, speaking oppression and revolt, conceiving and uttering from the heart lying words.”
Regardless of the remedies, we may want to cook up; there is a deeper problem here- the desperately wicked heart of man is showing itself. In a country where we claim an 80% Christianity rate, it is out of order to listen to such conversations. Where is God in our hearts? Is it not true that our hearts are godless? Isaiah’s case is that transgressions and a denial of God are the cause of the wickedness experienced in Israel. This situation has visited us today. Sex is sacred. The pop-culture’s thoughts about it do not determine this sacredness. It is standard and final. He adds as well that these transgressions testify against us. Ladies and gentlemen, the reason why we have such evil is not that we have kept at par with the trends of the day. It is a clear signal that we have cold hearts. We are into godlessness in the name of fads and status quo. Why would we take our bodies and sell them or even freely give them to men and women who are not ours rightfully? In our right state of mind, this should not be the case. So how do we pull off such absurdities? Because our hearts do not have what it takes to stand above the bar.
A godless heart does not care about the standards of God. Listen to the counsel and warning of Paul in Galatians 5:19, “Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality.” Paul says that it is evident, not hidden. Whenever we see sexual immorality, impurity, and sensuality, it should point our thoughts to this reality- we are walking in the flesh. We love godless things. Is there a way out for this? Yes. Our parents may be doing it for a ‘good cause,’ but there is no way that contraceptive route can be good parenting before God. It is neither godliness on our part. Our remedy remains Christ. Our actions show what fills our hearts. When God fills us, we walk away from this craze of contraceptives and set the bar that is guided by truth and not preferences.
b. Permissive culture.
Paul said in 1Corinthians 6:12-13, “All things are lawful for me,” but not all things are helpful. “All things are lawful for me,” but I will not be dominated by anything. Food is meant for the stomach and the stomach for food”—and God will destroy both one and the other. The body is not intended for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.” Is this not true for us today? Many of us have lost our virginity because we wanted to or it felt okay to do it. We were never rational in our estimates of our actions. We wanted it. We fantasized about it, then eventually did it. It is not victorious to have sex multiple times with multiple people and think we are okay simply because we did not get pregnant. Boys are more excited at the thought of promiscuity because the girls have ‘put a padlock’ that closes out pregnancies. The problem with such thinking is that we have bred a society that has learned to enjoy without consequences. Is there anything like that today? That there are no consequences to for our actions?
The victory from this permissive approach is to find our hearts settled on critical truths. “I will not be a slave to anything.” That is a choice we make. Think through it; how proud are of the things you are doing? Some of us will say they are satisfied. That is because their hearts are dead to the wooing of God. They are godless, and to make matters worse; they are slaves to things- to sex.
The bottom line is this; contraceptives have become a snare to this generation. Many of us have belittled God’s design for sex to short-lived satisfaction. We are promiscuous at an early age and bound because we have chosen godlessness and permissiveness. We should expect repercussions when we get to the place where every man does what is pleasing in their eyes.
Maybe you have laid down a girl (fornicated) on this assurance, that there will be no effect of pregnancy. Possibly your parents have facilitated you in this matter by taking you to the doctor for a protective procedure. But is it protective? Do you see the degradation you have done against yourself? The only place for safe sex is in marriage. It is reliable, not because there are no consequences, but because the effects, in a marriage covenant, are blessings of God- blessings. Who will you listen to most? Your family, society, or friend. In this matter, be found free from the Babel deception- everyone is clapping, but God is not impressed at all. The solution for this matter is not another coil implant or condom or preventive injection. The answer is a turning back to God in repentance, so then he can tell you who you are and shoulder you to Canaan land- freedom.
Say no to a lewd and wayward life and yes to a controlled and upright life.