1 Kings 12:1-15.
Then King Rehoboam took counsel with the old men, who had stood before Solomon his father while he was yet alive, saying, “How do you advise me to answer this people?” And they said to him, “If you will be a servant to this people today and serve them, and speak good words to them when you answer them, they will be your servants forever.” (1Kings 12:6-7).
From my personal experience, I have come to know that the people we allow to speak into our lives affect most of our decisions. Whether our advisors are our peers or even the elderly generation; they have the potential to make our lives great or miserable. I have had so many seminars with young people, and the questions we most likely expect are on relationships. Majority of wrong decisions we make, with regards to relationship, are mostly connected to those who have mentored us.
Check out the following questions and evaluate :
Are your friends having rich guys such that you feel pressured to keep op to their standard? How do your friends define a beautiful lady and ideal wife, and is that your definition too? When you broke up your relationship, what influenced you? Did someone encourage your decision and perhaps told you that you were not meant to be together instead of challenging you to work it out? Who have you surrounded yourself with? People who have good marriages or those with heartbreaks and believe there is no good man or woman?
Are you looking for dad’s ideal woman or your mum’s perfect man, or are you a man or a woman of your mind and know what you need for your life?
The major issue we must deal with is finding good people who are brutally honest with us to bar us from making the wrong decisions in life. People who love you so much as mentors at times sympathize with you, and they may not be biased in their counsel. Having people who don’t care about us as mentors may as well mislead us. Is there someone in your life who exercises what we call tough love on you? That is, they love you so much that they are very honest with you and don’t always tell you what you want to hear? Surround yourself with such people, and you shall succeed.
King Rehoboam went to seek counsel from his father’s advisers but rejected their wisdom in matters of governance. He later went to his peers who mislead him through their counsel. The primary point I want to get from this story is who do we allow to speak into our lives? Your relationship will fail or succeed in the hands of the people you chose to counsel you.
WHO IS YOUR MENTOR?
1 Kings 12:1-15.